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Are you married to an alcoholic? Is your husband/wife a different person when they drink? Are you tired of the Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde Behavior? Are you at your wits end and just can't take it anymore? What can you do?Stop trying to get your husband/wife to stop drinking.

The nagging style just won't achieve anything except getting yourself emotionally stressed out, whereby defeating the object of actually being able to help somebody who means such much in your life. You can't get through to an alcoholic with verbal strength as it will just make the situation worse. You need to take the gentle and loving approach in order to win over the alcoholic and make some significant ground.

Be loving and supportive of the person you married, not the alcoholic. Don't take any of the emotional garbage they dish out while drinking. Have you noticed how when your spouse drinks they start to berate you and want to start arguments? Don't argue or fight back. Let them know you will not argue with them while they are drinking, period.

If they insist on provoking, you should just leave the situation by going into another room, go and visit somebody you know, go out for a long stroll or just listen to your MP3. You need to maintain a strong mind as you are the one who has the power to stop them drinking by making them see for themselves that they really do have a problem.

The really sad fact about this kind of relationship is that the non-drinker ends up being as mentally and emotionally ill as the one that drinks. You should see then how important it really is that the non-drinker sets their own boundaries to what they are prepared tp put up with while their partner is under the influence of alcohol.

The most important thing to remember when they get drunk and they start to irritate you is that you don't get emotional at all and certainly don't react to their bait, as they are just waiting for you to respond on their level. Just walk away and try to just look right through them in a vein attempt to focus on the person in them that you used to love.

Don't help the alcoholic by enabling their addictive behaviour. Don't help them to bed. Don't let them drive while drinking. Do not let them argue, fuss or fight with you while they are drinking. Do not talk to them, leave the house or room and shut and lock the door behind you. Do not buy them alcohol, even if they beg you to. Don't treat them any differently because they have a drinking problem. Don't give them any special attention while they are drinking.

As soon as they are sober you need to change your chip and start loving them as you know and show them how concerned you and the rest of the family really are about their health. You will have to remind them of their violent behaviour while they are drunk and how bad you feel when they get into this state. The most important thing is that they really do need reminding in order for them to be able to make any progress.

This is just the beginning in a way to help you and your partner and ease your pain through living with an alcoholic. Another way to ease the pain is by seeing that you are not alone in this world and you can share other peoples experiences at the blog provided by stopdrinkingadvice.org and you will be amazed at the amount of success stories and that couples really have managed to win the battle together.

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