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When you married your spouse, there were stars in your eyes. This was the love of your life, and you knew the marriage would last forever. Life would be perfect. You would grow old together, and nothing would ever come between you.

What do you do when things turn sour? Has your spouse quit talking to you? Maybe you don't dream of being together every second of the day anymore and work is all that matters to your spouse now. Do you think you could tell if your spouse was cheating on you or not?

Some signs of infidelity are subtle, while others are more obvious. For example, your spouse may make excuses about working late or being detained at an event, which he or she is attending without you. Perhaps your partner begins returning home with rumpled or disarrayed clothing. Sometimes, he or she may even begin to kiss you differently or respond differently to you during times of intimacy.

With some people, maybe they start to be less responsive to your needs. Granted stress can make someone behave the same way, but stress does not call your spouse and hang up on you when you answer the phone. If you get phone calls that automatically bring up a red flag, you may need to investigate.

If you see some of these signs of infidelity, how do you go about confronting the person about possibly having an affair? This may depend on your personal style of handling conflict. Some people may deal with the problem directly and simply ask. The questioned spouse may admit or deny having an affair when directly asked. Others may choose to hire a private detective and have their spouse followed.

If you do find out that your spouse is having an affair, how will you cope with this unexpected pain? Surviving infidelity in your marriage can be difficult, but surviving a divorce can actually be more difficult.

An alternative to divorce is counseling. The marriage counselor will help you through your infidelity problems and work with you to get your marriage back on track. Two of the most important things to work on are being honest with each other and always being open with each other. This will help you heal the wounds that have been caused and you can start working on your marriage again.

If you truly think that your spouse may be having an affair, confront him or her as openly as possible. Encourage honesty and openness in your communication, and share the depth of your feeling for your spouse. If your spouse does admit to marital infidelity, discuss how you will work together to survive the pain of this experience. Do not let all of those years together go to waste!

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